Individual Therapy

You may be a strong, successful, independent woman. Keeping things looking functional on the outside is exhausting. All the while you may be dealing with things like this on inside.

  • Sleep issues: insomnia, over-sleeping, nightmares
  • Anxiety: excessive worrying about all that is going on and all that could go wrong
  • Addictive behaviors: distracting with being a workaholic, helping others who don’t want your help ( i.e. codependently smothering or trying to control or fix loved ones)
  • Relationship issues: conflicts and arguments with partners, co-workers, friends and family members or pulling away from them and questioning your place in these relationships
  • Mood issues: feelings of sadness, loneliness or numbness

“There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.”

Anais Nin

A COLLABORATION

I believe that individual therapy is best when it is a collaboration. Based upon over 30 years working with thousands of women I have learned a lot about what works in therapy and what does not. If you’ve been in psychotherapy or counseling before you may have had a rather passive therapist. “How did that make you feel?” “Tell me more about that.” I am clearly interested in how you feel, but that’s not what counseling with me will be like.

We will collaborate as we work together. Therapy can be one of the things that helps you make sustainable changes in your life. It’s about healing old wounds so you can move on with your life. It is clear to me that most women don’t acknowledge or see their own resilience. I help with that.

You are going to make all the decisions, but I will take an active part in this process and will give you ideas to try or reject.  I will assist you in setting realistic personal goals and then I will be around to help you be accountable to yourself to achieve them.

Deb Dettman lives in Chicago and is licensed to practice in both Illinois and Washington state.
*Approved to provide therapy online for clients in Minnesota, Pennsylvania,

Massachusetts, Maine and Vermont during the pandemic.
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WHAT WILL THERAPY BE LIKE?

I believe in being, “in the moment.” We can talk about the past, but we will work with what is going on right now. I will help you build on your strengths and catch the self-defeating patterns you may have picked up in order to survive your life. We all have them.

If you bring up trouble with procrastinating, we will explore how and why that is occurring. We might do a pros/cons list to determine what you gain from continuing to procrastinate that specific task. I may also just ask if you want to write that email or text or make that phone call right then during our session. I will be right here to deal with the anxiety as you follow through and then process how that turned out.

If you talk about communication problems in your relationship we might do a role play. I can then give more specific feedback about other ways you could choose to approach your part. We might work together on a possible script of what you want to say. Then you can practice and see how that feels.

If you are dealing with a lot of stress we can talk about what is stressing you. We can talk about what boundaries you may decide to set. You may find yourself overwhelmed and full of anxiety and just zoning out. I can teach you grounding exercises and we can practice right in session. We can try some breathing exercises and guided meditation/relaxation exercises.

The coping skills I am talking about are not mysteries. You may be well aware of what you could do, but just haven’t integrated these things into your life yet. Now is that time. 

HOW LONG DOES THERAPY LAST? 

 The duration of therapy is up to you. Some women might only need a handful of sessions to get their confidence back. Some women may just need to sort out a particularly tough time they are having. Others may want to do therapy for a year or so. Some women seek therapy for a while and then not for years. When life throws a few more curve balls they go back to counseling again. There is no shame in taking care of ourselves.